The Kidult

There is, apparently, a new developmental phase brought about by the economic crisis and, in the case of our state, the mining boom. Where previously children transitioned into adolescents then into adulthood now there is an intermediary phase between adolescent and adult which has been jokingly referred to as being a ‘Kidult’.

I have a Kidult living in my house and it’s not a pleasant business. Although officially adult in age these young people cannot afford to move out and be independent, especially if they are studying. The excessive cost of housing and lack of availability has seen the average age of children leaving home rising to 27!

The unfortunate side effect of these kids staying home so long is that it stunts their development. In our case my eldest reverts to childhood patterns of behavior and I tend to mother her more than I should. She is frustrated by household rules and routines and the lack of autonomy. The other downside is that kidults tend to be nocturnal creatures. Late night socializing and a desire to sleep until lunchtime aren’t that easy with younger siblings in the house.

I really feel for the kids these days. I couldn’t wait to have my independence and I wish that my daughter could have that too. Short of a lotto win I’m not sure how we are going to be able to help her or her siblings to fly the nest. When I was buying my first home the average deposit required was around $5-10,000. We recently enquired about the deposit required to purchase a 1 bedroom flat only to discover that the banks would want a deposit of $65,000!

I guess we’re going to be a very full household for a while longer than we thought. In some ways maybe we as a society are reverting back to the way things used to be with extended family all living together.


About embracingtheimperfections

I am a mother of six children. My children's ages range from 20 down to 1, so we are dealing with a lot of different ages and stages, not to mention a lot of different personalities. One of my twins has cerebral palsy so that adds yet another dimension to our lives. Along my journey so far I have learnt that life is far from perfect and that sometimes it's the imperfections that round out the harsh edges and give it a quality that is precious and unique. My love of the imperfect extends into my home life too. I love all things vintage, hand crafted, home grown and home cooked. I love to be creative and I love learning. I am definitely not a minimalist! I aspire to be tidy and organized but I am realizing that with six children, three cats and a crazy black Labrador that is probably beyond my capabilities, so I embrace the beautiful chaos that ensues!
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2 Responses to The Kidult

  1. busymomhelp says:

    This is exactly how things are in my country. But things get even worse. Some kidults get married and still stay with their parents. Moreover, some of them refuse to work and their parents have to support their new families and their kids! Sometimes, you may find a person living with his or her parents (most his, as most mothers here tend to pumper sons more than daughters) untill their retirement.

  2. csroth3 says:

    It’s not all bad though, it can be helpful sometimes. My son moved back in after graduating college and he was working part time while looking for a job in his field of study. He pays his own phone bill, pays for Netflix, and he’s usually helpful if I need him to do something, and he tutors his younger brother in math and chemistry. He recently secured a full time job in his profession and will start paying rent. I really missed him while he was away at college and he grew up a lot, so now I’m so happy he’s here.

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